Bachelor in Paradise? You’ll have to wait a little longer because this is Bachelor at Andrews. In this article, I will be addressing the dating scene at Andrews University. Many students want to find love, a shoulder to cry on, or maybe even a spouse. I’ve interviewed some people and have discovered some interesting perspectives on the dating scene at Andrews.
Couples at Andrews range from being high school sweethearts to meeting in the same class or even meeting the week of freshman orientation. There are also a lot of people that can meet by participating in athletic teams or various clubs on campus. It's similar to being able to meet people in all sorts of functions and organizations in the rest of the world. However, being on this small Adventist campus in Berrien Springs, Michigan can complicate things. Because we are in a tight-knit community, there’s more potential for assumptions, rumors, and drama to grow. This might lead to some fear among students to pursue relationships. Our student population is great because we know everyone, but that also has its drawbacks. Sometimes it can feel like everyone has an opinion on your relationship. Whether you are just starting or just getting out of one, everyone is bound to know sooner or later–which can be intrusive and uncomfortable. In other words, dating in the Andrews bubble can be challenging as people explore new friendships and relationships. Because the bubble is so small it can feel like Bachelor Nation, a reality dating TV show; watchers just can’t wait to tune in on ABC @ 8 pm ET every Thursday to watch you.
Speaking of Bachelor Nation, there are a lot of expectations with girls and guys that aren’t met on either side. In some interviews I’ve had with the student body, I've realized that this topic tends to be a gray area. Some guys would prefer to ask the girls out, and some would prefer to be asked. It's almost the same from the women’s perspective: some feel more comfortable being asked, and others have no problem taking control and asking. The group of girls who are okay with doing the approaching expressed that they want effort back in return. They quoted Elastagirl from the first Incredibles movie, “Girls, come on. Leave the saving of the world to the men? I don't think so! I don't think so.” They related to this because they believe that we shouldn’t just leave it up to all the guys to make a move. Much like everything else it should be even. On the other hand, through some of the male’s perspectives, “It would be weird if a girl asked me out.” I’m sure everyone would like to be pursued in some way. Whether it's returning the interest or getting the interest first.
I think it all comes down to confidence and preference. If you have confidence in yourself then you should shoot your shot. Everyone has different preferences, and the world beyond Andrews is so much bigger. You're bound to find someone who shares your same preferences, similarities, and values. You can always come back and try again. In the words of Jesse Palmer and Chis Harrison, hosts from The Bachelor, “If you didn’t receive a rose, please say your goodbyes.” But I would like to add: Say your goodbyes, work on yourself and try again.
The Student Movement is the official student newspaper of Andrews University. Opinions expressed in the Student Movement are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of the editors, Andrews University or the Seventh-day Adventist church.